A Single Thought Are You Ready To Love Smart?

Okay...it’s a new year and that means New Year’s resolutions. For some of us, it’s the annual time of the year when we decide,” this is the year that I find, meet and snag Mr. Right.” You don’t have to admit it. I know you’re out there; I can call many of your names out loud. My friends know that I’m a Dr. Phil groupie. I love his no-nonsense approach to most things in life. I’ve been heard on more than one occasion to repeat, “How’s that working for you?” After years of fixing the depressed, over-weight, drug addicted and general falling apart people, he now has written a book that is supposed to fix those of us that are “love challenged.”

Love Smart: Find the One You Want Fix the One You Got is supposed to show you how to stop stumbling through your love life. If it were only as easy as reading a book! For the lovelorn, much of his advice is practical. I think that many of us single girls are already following his advice in some form or fashion. We’re bathing, fluffing, puffing and dousing up in perfume and wearing the right clothes. After all, like Dr. Phil says, “You can’t fake fabulous.” He says that we need to define who we are and always be that person. Can’t argue there.

He says we need to “master the right moves.” I guess he’s seen some of our moves and they are not the right ones to attract a man. Girls tend to travel in a posse. It’s rare to go out and not see tables full of girls together. It takes a mighty big guy to walk over and talk to one of us in the middle of a cackling crew. Some food for thought there.

Mostly, I’m interested in the section on “peeking behind the male curtain.” This isn’t too new to me, as a male friend once told me, “Start thinking like a guy and you won’t wind up getting hurt as much.” And to some degree, I’ve used that advice many times. Of course, that’s after going through every possible scenario with him to figure out how guys think. I’m sorry to say, it only works part of the time.

Dr. Phil says that men have needs and fears and they don’t want us to know about them. And, that we need to learn how to decode their words and actions. Let’s face facts. It might be easier to decode a nuclear bomb with 20 seconds left before blast off, but hey, we can die trying. We’re women and we fix things.

Finally, now that we’re fabulous and we understand the male psyche, we’re supposed to “bag ’em, tag ’em and take ’em home.” According to the good doc, we can miss. Girls, we should be able to close the deal with the guy of our dreams once we know how to play the game. In a perfect world - maybe. I do agree with Dr. Phil when he says that there is somebody for everybody and that everyone deserves a relationship filled with love and excitement. Of course, I’ve been saying that for years, but now that Dr. Phil is saying it, maybe more women will pay attention and believe it.

So ladies, go for it. Whether or not you read the book - set a plan and put it into action. Who knows, it just might work. And if it doesn’t, what’s the worse that can happen? You can fly to Hollywood and be on the Dr. Phil show. Hey - there are worse things in life!

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